Posted by: awangshamsul | June 14, 2007

Want to get married?

Last months was the wedding months for many of my friends.  Mabrook! Subhanallah, may Allah grant them a peaceful and a righteous family. It started last year though where one by one, my friends are moving into a family life. It seems that people who are getting married are getting younger and younger. I wonder why?

But still, there are those out there are still not getting married. Why? For the same reason that I kept hearing over and over again. Money! Some parent does not let their children to get married just because they don’t have enough money yet. Some feel they need a huge money in order for them to invite all their relatives and friends to come to their walimah. But how enough is enough? But remember folks, Islam does not make marriage difficult. It’s our culture and the social pressure around us which made it so.

Al-Quran is our dear guidance, so let follow it’s admonitions.

‘And marry those among you who are single, and those who are fit among your males slaves and your female slaves. If they are needy, Allah will make them free from want out of His grace. And Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing. ‘ (An Nur, 24:32)

May Allah forgive our sins and make it easy for us on our journey toward him.

p/s: When am I getting married? :)


Responses

  1. It’s our culture and the social pressure around us which made it so.
    Interesting thought and very truly true.But not just our culture and our own social environment that made it hard,the western trend and mentality is also one of the main reason why lots of Muslims doesn’t want to get married.
    They’re the one who poisoned our mind saying that marriage is the end of freedom,marriage is a hell of engagement that burdens and marriage stops us in fulfilling our carrier and studies…
    Stop them from ruining what we believe!!!

    When i’m getting married, you’ll the first one to know.hehehe… ;p

  2. maybe kawin awal sebab nak elakkan daripada melakukan maksiat?
    ada yg tak kawin lagi sebab tak kerja lagi, tak bertemu jodoh, tentangan ibu bapa dan sbgnye. huhu

    apa2 pun kalau nak akwin jgn lupa ajak aku..

  3. maybe kawin awal sebab nak elakkan daripada melakukan maksiat?
    ada yg tak kawin lagi sebab tak kerja lagi, tak bertemu jodoh, tentangan ibu bapa dan sbgnye. huhu

    apa2 pun kalau nak akwin jgn lupa hantar jemputan

  4. Salam ‘adik’,

    Hmm interesting point adik.Your note on wedding in whic it is rather costly intrigued me.

    I’ve always belive that one should make do with what they have and can afford and opt for a justified decision in wedding planning. It’s ridiculous to spend overboard to celebrate a single day when the consequtive time worth much more to spend and put effort on. I’m not saying i’m against big wedding, i’m merely saying that small is enough if that is what one can afford.

    I’d also like to direct you to http://saifulislam.com/?p=538#more-538

    there an article on marriage. interesting read!🙂

  5. Asalamualikum va rehmnatullah, as yet i dont know from where do you belong and how old are you, but i not only share your name but also your feelings.

    subhanallah!! thats only what i can say now, somehow i hit upon you… leme read you more and decide what exactly i’m feeling!!


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